What should I say in an IEP meeting?

Short answer: Focus on data-driven requests and your child’s specific needs. Use phrases like, "Can you show me the data supporting that?" and "How does this accommodation specifically address my child's 2e profile in the classroom?"

How do I prepare for an IEP meeting?

Short answer: Review your child’s most recent evaluations and current IEP goals. Write down three specific concerns you want addressed and request a draft of the new IEP at least five days before the meeting starts.

Preparation is your best defense against feeling overwhelmed. By reviewing the draft early, you can highlight areas of disagreement and prepare your questions in advance, rather than reacting to new information in the heat of the moment.

What questions should I ask at an IEP meeting?

Short answer: Ask questions that force specific answers: "How is progress being measured?" "What specific training do staff have for 2e students?" and "What will we do if these interventions do not show results by next quarter?"

Vague goals lead to vague results. Force the team to define exactly what "success" looks like and how they plan to prove it. For twice-exceptional kids, ensure you ask how their giftedness is being supported alongside their disability.

Can I disagree with the school at an IEP meeting?

Short answer: Yes. You are an equal member of the IEP team. If you disagree, state your concerns for the record and decline to sign the final document until your specific objections are documented and addressed.

In many states, signing the IEP indicates consent. If you aren't ready to agree, you can sign "for attendance only." This keeps the process moving without waiving your right to dispute the services offered.

What should I bring to an IEP meeting?

Short answer: Bring a binder containing your child's latest evaluations, private provider reports, and samples of their work. Always bring a notebook, a physical copy of your talking points, and a photo of your child.

Placing a photo of your child on the table reminds the team that they are discussing a human being, not just a set of data points. Having your own copies of reports ensures you can cite specific evidence during the discussion.

Can I bring someone with me to an IEP meeting?

Short answer: Yes. Federal law allows you to bring individuals with "knowledge or special expertise regarding the child." This includes advocates, private therapists, or even a supportive friend to take notes for you.

You do not have to do this alone. If you plan to bring an attorney or a professional advocate, it is best practice (and often required) to notify the school at least 24 to 48 hours in advance.

What should parents do next?

1. Request the Draft: Email the IEP coordinator today and request the draft document be sent to you 5 days before the meeting.
2. Create Your List: Write down your "Top 3" goals for the meeting—don't get distracted by minor issues until these are resolved.
3. Record the Meeting: Check your state laws; if allowed, notify the school that you will be audio recording the session for your records.