The Power is in the Questions

If you stop talking, they stop explaining. Use these questions to steer the meeting away from "generic updates" and toward specific accountability.

1. Questions About Evaluations & Data

When the school team throws numbers at you, it is time to dig deeper into the actual meaning behind the scores.

2. Questions About Goals

Vague goals lead to vague progress. Ensure every IEP goal is measurable and specific.

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Specifically for "Smart but Struggling" Kids:

  • Intellectual Bottlenecks: "I see his reading comprehension is high, but his writing speed is low. How are we ensuring his intellect isn't bottled up by his inability to write fast?"
  • The "B Grade" Trap: "You mentioned he is 'doing fine' because he gets B's. Is he making progress commensurate with his ability, or is he just coasting?"
  • Advanced Content Access: "How can we support his executive function deficits without removing him from the advanced science class he loves?"
  • Behavioral Origins: "Is this 'behavior' (e.g., refusing to work) actually a result of boredom because the work is too easy, or frustration because the writing is too hard?"

3. Questions About Accommodations

Accommodations only work if they are actually implemented. Ask these to ensure accountability.

Practice with AI

Roleplay the "Difficult" Principal

Use this prompt to sharpen your skills before the real meeting:

"Act as a skeptical school administrator. I am going to ask you for a 1:1 aide for my son. Give me the typical pushback excuses so I can practice responding to them."

Print This List

Don't try to memorize these. Print them out and highlight the top 5 you need to ensure you don't lose your place during the meeting stress.